Remembering Perry

It was a gorgeous Thursday morning at the end of July. We met in the shade of the garden at Lake Forest to discuss a business opportunity. Would I put my entrepreneurial hat on once again? I wanted to get to know Perry Carroscia better because he would be the key. The business model already seemed irresistible.

But before long we found ourselves sharing about the people in our lives—our dads and wives and kids and church. We talked about Jesus, “the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God.” We lingered at the cross, amazed by the love. We discussed where Jesus is right now. How his “session” provides day-to-day, transcendent assurance and peace. We lost track of the time.

As we hustled across the parking lot I thought to myself, “What an amazing, solid person—I’d love to start a little company with a guy like this.” My business wheels were spinning in high gear.

It was not to be. Perry was taken to the hospital the very next day.

This morning hundreds of admirers will gather at our church to remember Perry. To celebrate his life. His faithfulness. His multi-faceted example.

Instead of becoming a business partner, Perry has joined the “cloud of witnesses” that surrounds me. Remembering his faith in action will motivate and inspire me for a long time to come. Is this true of you, too?

Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God. Hebrews 12:1-2 ESV

Perry Carroscia has finished his course, and he did it well in every category–especially with his wonderful, amazing family. His wife, Stacey, and their three kids, ages 11, 13, and 16 have suffered an unimaginable loss, yet they are solid in their faith. They face some challenging times ahead. If you are wondering how you can help, consider this idea: CLICK HERE.

Today the business opportunity I was so excited about now seems small, unmotivating and uninspiring. James 4:13-15 rings in my ears. Picking up a project feels like a weight . . . and dust.

There is a different weight I want to pursue instead. A better weight. You can read about it in 2 Corinthians 4:6-18. The Carroscia family has this in clear focus because they are confident that “he who raised the Lord Jesus will also raise us with Jesus, and bring us . . . into his presence.” Perry will be missed but only for a while.

The eternal weight of glory is at hand. And it’s beyond all comparison.

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  • http://www.webwisedom.com/ Mike Wise

    Thanks for sharing. The last day….

    I got to know Perry through making a video of his life. Wish I had the opportunity to hear his voice, his laugh. On the other side…

    Mad respect.

    Mike Wise

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Du9E4_SGkhk&feature=youtube_gdata_player

  • http://www.facebook.com/deann.meade DeAnn Meade

    I remember a chapel service from either my high school or college days. We were challenged on how we would have lived our “dash”. You know, all the days between the year of your birth and your death.
    I didn’t know Perry. I only know Ray and his family. But wow, talk about a man who lived his dash WELL for the Lord. What an encouragement and inspiration.
    My thoughts and prayers to his wife and kids as their lives unfold without their dad and husband. Be proud, your dad was a vigilant warrior for the Lord. What an honor!

  • jboss

    I am so overcome with a simultaneous grief and joy. Perry was a hero of mine… and I only knew him as more than acquaintance this past year. It seems as though everything Perry did, he was good at it. Neighborhood sports captain? check. Varsity captain? check. College student athlete? check. Then the stakes are raised… it’s one thing to “be” the following, but it’s another thing to “be good” at it. Husband? check. Father? check. the list could go on and on… and from what I gathered from the celebration of his life was that once Perry committed to something, he was “all in.” Neighborhood sports captain? check. Husband and Father? check. Committed Believer? check.

    Perry’s legacy walked out of his home-going celebration a half hour ago… 500-600 strong… and those were the people who showed up!

    For one year, I was able to be closer than arm’s length to him, and I will be changed. We should all be so fortunate to have rubbed shoulders with you, Perry. Thanks for teaching me how to go “all in.”

    Jim Bossler

    • http://BobBevington.com/ Bob Bevington

      The Celebration service was amazing. Unforgettable! I got a text from someone who watched it online from work. Perry touched so many, so deeply, in both life and death.

  • Jay_the_Optimist

    Perry was a prince of a guy.

    There are True Facts, but our world is more interested in Useful Facts. Useful Facts are not necessarily True Facts. It was not possible to know Perry, and not possible to read Stacey’s reaction to this without realizing this very True Fact – God is Real. He is alive.

    In Matthew 7:24, Jesus says that whoever hears my words and does them will be like a wise man that built his house on a rock. Perry was all about hearing and doing and building, and his house – his family – is built on the rock of truth. That is a True Fact, and is very encouraging to me.