Guest Blogger: Judge Tom Parker

Tom Parker is a judge in the Summit County Court of Common Pleas. He and his wife recently joined the little band of believers who meet in my basement every Sunday night to remind one another of The Good News.

Yes, Tom and Melissa are “Cellar Dwellers.” Go figure.

If you asked Tom what he’s learned about God’s justice and mercy during his time on the bench, you’d probably hear this story:

 

“But, I’m a Good Person!” Really? by Tom Parker

Mr. Sanders’ eyes rarely met mine. Sure, he looked at me briefly and mumbled “Guilty” when I asked how he wished to plead to the criminal charges he was facing. But he was definitely having a hard time maintaining eye contact.

I was not surprised. Many who appear before the judge to face the consequences of their action are on a journey between fact and fiction. And, to them, the judge sits a little too close to fact.

Most defendants know that what they say to the judge before the sentence is imposed is crucial to the determination of their punishment. Some decide the time has come to be completely honest, by saying things like,

I did it. I don’t have any excuse for my crimes. I’m ready to receive my punishment.

Some maintain their innocence, awaiting their appeal. They say,

Judge, I didn’t do it. The jury got it wrong. I deserve to go free.

Then you get people like my fictitious Mr. Sanders. They’ll say things like,

Judge, I know I lied to gain entry to that house. I know I stole the homeowner’s priceless, irreplaceable stamp collection and pawned it so I could get money for drugs. But, judge, that was completely out of character. That was not me! I really am a good person! I just made a mistake!

When I hear that, the conversation often goes like this:

Mr. Sanders, what do you call a person who tells lies?

A liar.

And what do you call someone who steals things?”

A thief.

What does that make you?

A liar and a thief.

Mr. Sanders, most of the people I know don’t consider liars and thieves to be good people.

While my Mr. Sanders is fictitious, and while you may smile at my clever way of cutting through his self-deception, if you are like me, you may see some of yourself in him.

Don’t we all do that at first? Before we realize our need for a Savior, we foolishly attempt to bamboozle God by statements such as, “I’m really not that bad—my good deeds outweigh my bad ones.”

And we back that up by comparing ourselves to others who seem worse than we are.

Who do we think we are kidding? Hebrews 4:13 says, Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of him to whom we must give account.

As a judge, at sentencing time I have an opportunity to show mercy to some. Who do you suppose is most likely to receive it? The person who isn’t even honest with himself? Or the person who has laid down his or her pretense?

If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar and his word has no place in our lives (1 John 1:8-10).

Friends, God is waiting to save. Based on the finished work of His Son on the cross, he is willing to forgive. His eyes range throughout the earth to strengthen those whose hearts are fully committed to him.

We can start the flow of strengthening grace by being totally honest with ourselves—about ourselves.

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  • Scott Mabee

    And after the terror of Hebrews 4:13 comes the peace of Hebrews 4:14-16 for those who believe and are honest with themselves.

    Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has gone through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to the faith we profess. For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one has been tempted in every way, just as we are — yet he did not sin. Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.

    “I am the man.”
    2 Samuel 12:7

    Scott

    • TParker3neo

      Scott, well put. As we walk the path of the Christian life we are called to ponder deeply the portions of the Bible that command us to fear the Lord and to recognize that when we do so, we begin to get wisdom. At the same time, Jesus has told us to come, burdened and heavy laden, to Him and he will give us rest. All we can do – and the best we can do – is completely trust in the one who promises to save us based on what He has done for us!

  • Jeff Smith

    Superb message Judge Parker! Thanks be to God for giving his Son to redeem us and forgive our guilty sentences. Highest glory, honor & praise to our risen Lord and Savior!

  • Lookforthegood

    With this story, it has really opened my eyes to successes I have had since “maturing”. When I was immature, I was a liar. When I was immature, I was a thief, if even in a small way. I try to instill these experiences in my children and have met with failures and success. I try to live by my own teachings. Manytimes, I catch myself begin to tell a lie, then I think of the copnsequences. Manytimes I find myself ready to keep the extra change or free item in the cart, but I think about who it is really hurting, hurting my self-worth. This story rings true in my life on a daily basis as we work to practice what we preach. It feels good to be successful and terrible to fail! I can only hope the Lord accepts me for the imperfect but striving person I am.
    Thanks Judge!

    • TParker3neo

      The Lord accepts those who come to realize that it is what He did for them that counts, not what can do for Him. The Lord converts hope to assurance of salvation for those who do. The Bible is quite clear that one will not achieve salvation by keeping the law. Read the first eleven verses of the Book of Galatians or Romans Chapter 3. The fact that a person’s conscience is active and points out that we are about to do something wrong is a pretty good indication that the Holy Spirit is working in that person’s life. Now its time to investigate fully what the Lord has done!

      • thecommonlanguage.com

        I read Romans 3 that way, too. What a blessing to have a God who sacrificed his son for us so that we may have eternal life with Him! For Him to have died for us while we were still sinners -no words can aptly express the gratitude! Thanks for writing! Susan Moore

  • jourdon

    Judge Parker, through your occupation I believe you have developed a somewhat rare connection and understanding of our Lord. Your message is very clear partly due to that fact. There really no reason to try to bamboozle (what a great word) our all-knowing God, just as there is no reason to do the same to a judge who already knows the truth. I’m glad you shared this lesson.

    • TParker3neo

      Once we realize God knows us, and when we realize He was serious about the consequences of our failings, then we can investigate what He has done for us. We must then decide whether to accept that gift or whether to try to get to God on our own efforts. But we can’t even begin that journey if we think, “All is well with me!”

  • Tom Scott

    Wow, I’m a liar, cheat, and a thief. Thank goodness I qualify to be a part of His kingdom. I wouldn’t change a thing that’s happened to me or that I’ve done to others in the past. I have been given the amazing gift of grace from a savoir that only requires in return everything I have. He requires me to be broken into pieces with no other way out but through Him. As my judge at sentencing time I can only hope he says to me….welcome……thx Tom.

    • TParker3neo

      Tom, with faith that what Jesus did is all you have to rely on and that your own merit gains you nothing, you will not be sentenced. Jesus paid the price you and I would otherwise have to pay. Check out Zechariah chapter 3. Like burning sticks, we have been snatched from the fire!