My Mom’s Final Breath

Bob Bevington
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My Mom’s Final Breath | January 2nd, 2014

My Mom’s Final Breath

Mom & BobIt can only happen once in a lifetime: you watch your Mom take her final breath.

Nine difficult days had passed since the car accident. Although she was still in the intensive care unit, there were reasons to hope my Mom would eventually recover.

It was Christmas Eve morning and I arrived at the hospital early in a cheerful mood, expecting to see her smile. I met the nurse in the hallway and she told me things were “the same.” Not a bad report, given all my Mom had suffered. I walked into the room and our eyes met. But instead of smiling, she started coughing. The nurse yelled for help and within seconds the room was full of people dressed in scrubs trying to save my Mom’s life. a few minutes later they stopped trying. The doctor looked at me and said, “She still has a pulse but it wouldn’t be long.”

So I stood there, by her bedside, dissolved into tears and whispering goodbyes into her ear.

I love you. You were the best Mom ever. And you have a great Savior. He is all you need right now. He’s waiting for you with open arms. I will see you again soon and everything will be better. Good bye Mom. I love you. You were the best Mom ever.

When I was a kid growing up all my friends wished they had a Mom like mine. She really was the best Mom ever–right up to her final breath. My 12-minute tribute to her is below starting at 28:00. Pastor Joe Coffey’s wonderful comments start at 47:35.

Watching my Mom take her last breath has strengthened my faith in Jesus Christ. Everything about it was consistent with all of the Bible’s declarations about the nature of our physical life, spiritual life, physical death, and eternal life. Take a look at your hand, your arm, your legs, your torso. Is this you? Is this what you are? No! You are something that can and will leave your body when the inevitable happens and you take your last breath. I saw this happen right before my very eyes on Christmas Eve and I will never forget it.

I expect to see my Mom again soon enough. She will be smiling again. And so will I. And we won’t be alone there: To be absent from the body is to be present with the Savior (2 Corinthians 5:1-10). When our final breath comes, if He is truly our Savior, He will be everything we need in that moment. He is more real, more lasting than our body ever was.

  • singing428

    Bob, your mom’s memorial service was such a beautiful tribute to her life. Marc, Brandon, and I feel blessed to have shared in it. What wonderful assurance to know you will see her again in heaven one day. As she is now sitting at the feet of her Savior and basking in the glory only his presence can give I am sure she is smiling down on your and your family. One question though……Did she like Reeses Peanut Butter Cups? If so, I am sure she met my mom and they enjoyed one together. :)

  • Susie

    Bob, what a beautiful testimony of your mom’s life. Rest assured, the gift lives on in you, too. Thank you for lifting others up and showing them the love of Christ. Your mom’s legacy continues.

  • Mike Wise

    I’m So glad I was there. I echo the other sentiments. I’ll add that the last song with Jim Bossler leading your daughter and her cousin was absolutely stunning. The room rushed for just a moment. Love and Respect, Bob.

  • Sandy Andrassy

    Hi Bob – you and Joe and others at the service did an amazing job – sharing so well a message that honored the Lord and was a beautiful tribute to Vi. I’m so glad you had such an awesome Mom! For those who were not able to attend, take a listen to the highlights Bob mentions above – but don’t miss the last few minutes…you’re depart with a smile, thankful that our great Redeemer made this possible :)

  • Cindy B

    Blessings to all of you Bob!

  • Chris

    Bob – thank you for the opportunity to share this time with you. Your talk and pastor Joe’s left an impression on me that won’t soon be forgotten. Thankful to be your brother in Christ.

  • Brett

    Your tribute as well as the other speeches and performances were an amazing tribute to your wonderful mother.

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