My Mom’s Final Breath

Bob Bevington
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My Mom’s Final Breath | January 2nd, 2014

My Mom’s Final Breath

Mom & BobIt can only happen once in a lifetime: you watch your Mom take her final breath.

Nine difficult days had passed since the car accident. Although she was still in the intensive care unit, there were reasons to hope my Mom would eventually recover.

It was Christmas Eve morning and I arrived at the hospital early in a cheerful mood, expecting to see her smile. I met the nurse in the hallway and she told me things were “the same.” Not a bad report, given all my Mom had suffered. I walked into the room and our eyes met. But instead of smiling, she started coughing. The nurse yelled for help and within seconds the room was full of people dressed in scrubs trying to save my Mom’s life. a few minutes later they stopped trying. The doctor looked at me and said, “She still has a pulse but it wouldn’t be long.”

So I stood there, by her bedside, dissolved into tears and whispering goodbyes into her ear.

I love you. You were the best Mom ever. And you have a great Savior. He is all you need right now. He’s waiting for you with open arms. I will see you again soon and everything will be better. Good bye Mom. I love you. You were the best Mom ever.

When I was a kid growing up all my friends wished they had a Mom like mine. She really was the best Mom ever–right up to her final breath. My 12-minute tribute to her is below [Read more...]

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The Talk, Tim Keller, and a Video about Sex

Bob Bevington
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The Talk, Tim Keller, and a Video about Sex | December 5th, 2013

The Talk, Tim Keller, and a Video about Sex

The TalkI recently had “The Talk” with my fifth-grade son. It was very brief and went something like this:

Son, I can pretty much tell you everything you’ll ever need to know about sex in one sentence: God made sex. And if you do sex God’s way, it will turn out good. But if you don’t do sex God’s way it will cause all kinds of problems.

As soon as the words came out of my mouth I realized it was actually three sentences. But he didn’t seem to notice. So I asked,

Any questions?

He didn’t have any so I figured I must have done a good enough job.

But then I came across this video of Tim Keller talking about sex. How Keller can pack so many profound insights into a 2-minute video amazes me. [Read more...]

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Forgiveness

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Forgiveness | October 18th, 2013

Forgiveness

FROM BOB: The following blog post was written by my former wife. She will be in Tampa, Florida next week teaching a conference on Forgiveness. She knows a lot about the subject. I hope many show up and listen carefully to her.

FORGIVENESS, by Rita Bevington

Amy and Rita Bevington

AMY & RITA BEVINGTON

In the film Under the Tuscan Sun, actor Diane Lane comments, “The most surprising thing about divorce is that is doesn’t kill you instantly like a head-on car crash, because it should. Instead, we are left trying to process the impact and cope with the painful aftermath.”

I think there are few things in life more devastating than finding out that someone I once loved could become the object of my hatred. Someone I thought was my friend could become my enemy. Trust is shattered. Betrayal destroys relationship. Faith is questioned. The covenant is broken. A life built becomes the focus of a battle to dismantle. I experienced the pain, anger, and resentment of betrayal and divorce, along with it’s never ending repercussions. David describes this condition in Psalm 55: 12-14:

For it is not an enemy who reproaches me, then I could bear it; nor is it one who hates me who has exalted himself against me, then I could hide myself from him. But it is you, a man my equal, my companion and my familiar friend. We who had sweet fellowship together, walked in the house of God in the throng.

Who can we turn to when the one who betrays us is our spouse, relative, or close friend? Ultimately, our sinless heavenly Father is the only One who will never sin against us. He will not betray, abandon, or reject us. By contrast, all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23).

All human beings are terminal sinners—including me. I will sin against those I love. I will fail those I love. I will be failed by those who love me. I will be betrayed. I will have pain that results from simply being in relationship with others.

Jesus himself faced betrayal. All of his closest friends deserted him at end of his life. One betrayed him, with a kiss. Sound familiar? [Read more...]

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Jesus’ SCARS: How to Spend Quality Time with God

Bob Bevington

Jesus’ SCARS: How to Spend Quality Time with God

Prayer 2A couple years ago I re-worked the well-known ACTS acrostic and found it to be a game-changer in my morning time with God. Recently I re-worked the re-work to make it clearer and hopefully more useful to others. Here it is:

Jesus:  Start by simply meditating on the Person of Christ. Set your heart and mind on him but don’t necessarily put your thoughts and feelings into words. Remember who he is—a co-glorious Person of the triune God. His glory had no beginning. It existed before the dawn of time.[1] It followed him as he entered our world, and could not be contained as he lived a sinless life, demonstrating authority over nature, sickness, demons and death. In a human body, he obeyed in our place to the point of death, even death on a cross.[2] He rose and ascended and will come again to openly and absolutely and unceasingly reign as King of Kings and Lord of Lords.[3] Yes, he is unfathomable—the point of this step is to become astonished by trying to fathom him even a little.

Take your time with this. Don’t move on until your heart warms toward him with awe and affection.

S = Sin:  Next, ask God to make you aware of your sin. Focus your attention especially on your words, thoughts, deeds and motives of the past twenty-four hours. Agree with him in no uncertain terms—call your sins what they really are: rebellion and cosmic treason. Ask him to grant you repentance.[4] Acknowledge the fact that much of your sin is still unknown to you. Go so far as to declare your utter unworthiness—not a difficult thing to do when you think about the fact that you are spending time in the presence of an absolutely holy God.

C = Cross:  You know what to do with those sins—take them to the cross! Place your trust in Christ’s all-sufficient sacrifice there, remembering that it’s because of him alone that you are warmly accepted before the Father. Your sin-bearing, wrath-bearing, curse-bearing Savior also clothes you in his perfect righteousness.

If this good news seems too good to be true, apply the Scriptures on the subject to yourself by personalizing them. There are hundreds of go-to passages for this in the Bible. Make your own list of cross-centered verses and then linger over it until you become assured of being enveloped by His love.

A = Adoration:  At this point, how can you not be filled with gratitude? Praise, adoration and worship come easily. Bask in them for as long as you can. It’s a lot easier to worship after taking your sin to the cross! We will cover this subject in greater detail when we discuss the fifth love language, words of affirmation.

R = Responsive Reading:  This is sometimes referred to as conversational prayer or meditative prayer. Start by reading Scripture beginning where you left off the previous day. As you read and re-read, turn it into a conversation with God. Seek to “hear” what he is saying through his Word, the Bible. Spiritual hearing [Read more...]

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