Three Bevingtons on Moody Radio “Java with Juli”

Bob Bevington

Three Bevingtons on Moody Radio “Java with Juli”

Bevington PhotoThe interviewees: My wife, Amy. My former wife, Rita. And myself.

The interviewer: Dr. Juli Slattery. The program:  Java with Juli. It aired last week on Moody radio affiliates across the country including WCRF. You can hear the half-hour broadcast at this LINK.

Our story of sin, forgiveness, and reconciliation began 18 years ago with all the toxic angst and drama of divorce. Eventually the three of us began to discover and apply the transforming power of the gospel. We are still learning. Meanwhile the amount of healing has been amazing–extending to and through all four of my children, and reaching out to help others through the book, Red Like Blood and the Oasis class at Christ Community Chapel.

If you listen carefully, you will hear the real story–how the dots connect all the way back to the cross.  [Read more...]

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Forgiveness

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Forgiveness | October 18th, 2013

Forgiveness

FROM BOB: The following blog post was written by my former wife. She will be in Tampa, Florida next week teaching a conference on Forgiveness. She knows a lot about the subject. I hope many show up and listen carefully to her.

FORGIVENESS, by Rita Bevington

Amy and Rita Bevington

AMY & RITA BEVINGTON

In the film Under the Tuscan Sun, actor Diane Lane comments, “The most surprising thing about divorce is that is doesn’t kill you instantly like a head-on car crash, because it should. Instead, we are left trying to process the impact and cope with the painful aftermath.”

I think there are few things in life more devastating than finding out that someone I once loved could become the object of my hatred. Someone I thought was my friend could become my enemy. Trust is shattered. Betrayal destroys relationship. Faith is questioned. The covenant is broken. A life built becomes the focus of a battle to dismantle. I experienced the pain, anger, and resentment of betrayal and divorce, along with it’s never ending repercussions. David describes this condition in Psalm 55: 12-14:

For it is not an enemy who reproaches me, then I could bear it; nor is it one who hates me who has exalted himself against me, then I could hide myself from him. But it is you, a man my equal, my companion and my familiar friend. We who had sweet fellowship together, walked in the house of God in the throng.

Who can we turn to when the one who betrays us is our spouse, relative, or close friend? Ultimately, our sinless heavenly Father is the only One who will never sin against us. He will not betray, abandon, or reject us. By contrast, all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23).

All human beings are terminal sinners—including me. I will sin against those I love. I will fail those I love. I will be failed by those who love me. I will be betrayed. I will have pain that results from simply being in relationship with others.

Jesus himself faced betrayal. All of his closest friends deserted him at end of his life. One betrayed him, with a kiss. Sound familiar? [Read more...]

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Molested Boy Scout Transformed by the Gospel

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Molested Boy Scout Transformed by the Gospel | December 13th, 2012

Molested Boy Scout Transformed by the Gospel

TOM SCOTT

This is by no means an indictment of the Boy Scouts of America. Strenuous measures have been taken to assure things like this no longer happen.

That said, this is a true story. The names have not been changed to protect the innocent. Tom Scott has been a member of my community group, The Cellar Dwellers, for almost two years. We have walked through this amazing process with him and it has not always been pretty. The man who molested him, Mr. Smith (his first name might be Bill), went to prison in the late 1970’s and that’s the last Tom heard of him.

After you read his story, please send this link to anyone who might be able to help Tom find Mr. Smith.

But the main question this raises is this: What kind of power is in a Gospel that can change a person as deeply as it has changed my friend Tom?

MY STORY, by Tom Scott

It was the summer of 1977 and I was a typical 13-year-old spending a weekend at Boy Scout Camp. On Saturday, a trusted Scout dad named Mr. Smith molested me in the cabin. I’ve been anything but typical ever since.

Overcome by shame, I didn’t reveal the attack to anyone. But the next twenty years I used every drug and drink known to man to numb the pain. None of it helped. And no woman in the world could make me feel like the man I thought I should be.

Nothing could fill the cavern in my soul because, [Read more...]

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